Mirror Talk: Honor Yourself

Stefanie Johnson
4 min readJun 7, 2019

Eph 6:2–3 Honor..is the first commandment that has a promise attached to it, namely, “so you will live well and have a long life.”

There they went again, taking you with them into a rabbit hole mentality of “what did I do wrong”. Here you go again, shoulders down and face in your hands in another moment of despair that pins you down like a block of cement. When you tolerate dishonor, you play with fire. It is a fire that your tears can not put out.

A person that says “sorry” multiple times needs to be released so that they can be sorry somewhere else. Holding on to someone out of fear of being alone divorces you from yourself. It is better to let go and go through the trial of healing your heart for a moment than a lifetime of pain.

When will you realize that you stay nowhere when you stay with dishonor?

Let a person realize on their own that it takes not having the good anymore to realize how good they had it. There is no gain in jumping through hoops and lapping behind them like a thirsty puppy hoping to prove your worth to them. You must stop hanging on to people that aren’t interested.

You stay nowhere when you stay with dishonor.

Stop investing in the disengaged. Stop investing in those who maintain their attitude of indifference. You are someone who tries to prove your worth by tolerating a behavior because you think that person just needs time or just needs you to be more patient, more loving, more giving, more pretty…more..more..more. The “more” you try to fill in someone else’s gaps that you think exist due to some fault of your own, the more you feel empty. Their gap of not being able to see how badly you want to connect with them, or maybe even the gap which is their lack of respect as they see you tolerate a behavior, is what will leave you feeling emotionally and mentally stranded.

You stay nowhere when you stay with dishonor.

The cracks in the foundation cause you to live on an island with nowhere to turn. You think that the only way out of the situation is to reconstruct what is on the island. Meanwhile your internal capacities crumble as you travel in circles, blinded by the discord of trying to make someone honor you. You cannot make anyone honor you.

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Stefanie Johnson

I aspire to inspire before I expire :). I write to share my spiritual journey and to provide hope for others. We are never alone ❤.